I Used to Be Obsessed with Romantic Relationships

Full disclosure: I once was obsessed with being in a relationship! Man-crazy. Not promiscuous, just constantly thinking about being with someone, and when I did, he became an obsession. I thought it was because I was the “relationship-type,” now I know it was because I validated myself through relationships. In reality, the need for validation drove me to find someone who would move me from a place of lack, someone who would fill a void. When I was not in a relationship, I would feel lonely, rejected, unlovable, unattractive.

Now, don’t get me wrong, I still had a certain level of self-respect, so there were standards. However, there were times when I found myself settling, ignoring “red flags” to have some attention. I was functioning from the wrong logic, a codependent logic.

Today, I function from what I truly want and desire, from my heart. I go into greater detail in this week’s podcast. You may listen at linktr.ee/coachkourtneyk